Being Modest or Bringing Sexy Back

As a believer of the word and the full scriptures I believe that no biblical, Yahweh (God) fearing women should be wearing this kind of attire. The closer I find myself coming to Yahweh I find I want to be more modest. I want to be try to cover up more and more. I don't believe in completely covering up at all. I think there is a balance with all things, however hearing women say they are bringing sexy back doesn't rub me right. I firmly believe in being fit for your husband. I firmly believe if you are not then you are unable to do what Yahweh (God) has called us as women to do and that is be a wife, mother and servant.

Women should want to bring sexy back, but for our husband only. That should only be talked about in private and in the bedroom. It should not be flaunted about especially on social media, or online in any way. Especially since anyone can save the picture to their computer and use it in any way that they please.

I recently read an article called "Should Christians Wear Bikinis". At first I was nervous. I wasn't sure if it was going to fall with what I felt or believed and I didn't want to become bitter over the subject at all. With hesitance I read it and was rather happy to hear the stance. There is a still a strong divide with women though. Many of them feel it's OK to wear what they want and flaunt it. All I can do is pray that their eyes be opened to the truth. I can only hope that hearts are changed and women see that they are beautiful just the way they are.

Women don't have to wear skimpy clothes to get attention from a biblical man. You gain respect and honor from your husband by being modest, and the biblical women.

Removing Toxicity

I am always talking about removing toxicity from our bodies. I explain it in detail on how foods can damage our bodies in so many ways. I have even taught on the importance of doing a "clean up" by cleansing the body. In the past my husband and I were very strict about who we let around our kids. We have always pushed to have them only around Godly people.

This past 9 months we have experienced first hand what will happen when you let your guard down and mingle with the devil. He seen the opportunity and we both fall in. We started to do things that we knew we didn't agree with. We stopped praying almost completely, because it felt hopeless and useless. Our kids started to have friends that were not believers at all. We allowed these people in our homes, and to our children to be with them on a daily basis.

Then there came a moment when I said NO MORE. my husband is the head of our home, but as his wife/partner that was the line. Our children started to do things they normally wouldn't do. There was strife in my home for the first time in almost 5 years that had utterly shocked me to the core. The breaking moment was about two months ago. I felt so strong in my heart for the past few months we should have moved into military housing. Even though we were in a 2 year lease this is what I felt. I ignored it and decided not to give in thinking it was my flesh and not YHWH directing me. About 6 weeks ago I finally told my husband that I wanted to move on post. We did the application, but never turned in the paperwork. Then 2 weeks later he came to me and said I have been feeling for the past few months to move on post, but didn't want to. He thought I wouldn't want to move. After reviewing our bills (currently doing the Dave Ramsey debt plan), we found no choice but to move on post.

Our rental company agreed to let us out of our lease early. They were a little upset, but after this week we won't have to worry about it at all. In the past week since we have moved on post things have already changed.  There is a peace in my home that I haven't felt in a long time. There is peace with my kids and my husband having the urge to want to pray with them again. I know this was the right choice and ultimately it was the better choice. As I sit here looking out my window watching the kids play I am complete peace knowing that this was the right decision, but we had to remove the toxicity out of our home first. YHWH states many time not to mingle, and fellowship with ungodly and unbelievers. Two days after we made the decision to move on post I opened up my bible and this was the first passage I read. It was complete confirmation to us: Proverbs 23:20 Be not among heavy drinkers of wine Or with gluttonous eaters of meat; 23:21 For the drunkard and the glutton become poor, And slumber puts rags on a man.

My Calling Remembered

Christian motherhood means dedicating your entire life in service of others. It means standing beside your husband, following him, and investing in the lives of children whom you hope will both survive you and surpass you. It means forgoing present satisfaction for eternal rewards. It means investing in the lives of others who may never fully appreciate your sacrifice or comprehend the depth of your love And it means doing all these things, not because you will receive the praise of man — for you will not — but because God made you to be a woman and a mother, and there is great contentment in that biblical calling."
~Doug Phillips


There are days that I think it would be better if I just hire and nanny, and go get a job. I need to define me and myself. I need to have a plan in place, then I come across something like this. A reminder that a mom and a wife is the highest calling I could have asked for. I not only got blessed with one, but five beautiful children. They are no by no means perfect, but they are my blessings that God saw fit for me and my husband. I am a wife to a military man which is never easy. So today and each day I am going to remind myself that I am wife. I am a mother, and I am walking out one of the highest callings that anyone can ask for. I will thank Yahweh and worship each day for this special honor and privilege. There is nothing greater.

Juanita E

Preparing For The Sabbath

Each week is a new struggle as our family faces different and new strategies. One of them is learning to put in practice the Shabbat as my husband chooses and leads. We have really gotten consistent in the past 6 months with honoring the Sabbath. So each week it does get easier.

The first week was so hard. I mean I was confused, and I ended up cleaning and ran out of our "snacks".  It was horrible at first. I kept praying and asking for help because I needed it. Little by little my creativity came into play. I got more creative as time went on. I am still no pro but I am a lot more organized and the Sabbath runs so much more smoothly.

I have narrowed down 7 things I do before the start of the Sabbath.

1. Buy fruit, vegetables, greek yogurt to eat for the morning and snack on. 
2. We buy paper plates plastic spoons and forks. I know this isn't the best option, but until I can come up with something a little better this is what we have chosen that fits with our family. 
3. I print out the scriptures on a Word Document the Sunday before the Sabbath. This so that way the material that my husband was teaching our kids is fresh in our mind. I would like to point out my husband does lead the teachings and is head of our home. He tells me what we are going to study and asks me to find scriptures ahead of time so he can teach me and the kids. 
4. We do a crock pot meal or prep a casserole the week of sometime so that way Saturday evening we just pop it in the oven. If we decide to cook something else we will prep the food still and put it in the fridge or freezer. We have done this with hamburgers, steaks, and pies. 
5. We do all of our deep cleaning on Sunday and extra loads of laundry on this day. The only difference we have made is that instead of our family day on Sunday it is now on the actual Sabbath. Thursday and Friday morning I may have the kids do dishes, while I vacuum. Basically just little things to be sure to keep the house tidy during the Sabbath. 
6. I do all my shopping by Thursday because chances are I forgot something and it gives me Friday still to go and get what I forgot. 
7. The last thing I do is on Friday early afternoon. I set up movies, coloring sheets and activities for the younger kids to do while we study The Scriptures with the older kids. I try to refrain from using cutting, glitter or really small gems and stones. I will usually have one of the older kids cut out the shapes before hand so it's cleaned up before the Sabbath. 

This is what I have found to be the most successful in preparing for the Sabbath. It might not go as smooth as I would like all the time but this has eliminated me stressing out over it. These simple steps are things I do through out the week and I don't cram them all into one day. 

It has also helped me and our family to rest and enjoy the Sabbath. 

Bible Reconstruction

A few years ago I came up with something called "Bible Reconstruction". It wasn't something fancy or complex at all. Our now 11 year old was only about 4 years ago so she was about 7 years old. We were coming home from a fellowship and she had started talking back to me and my husband and this was something that was kind of escalating over a few months. On this particular day she was really being rude, nasty and just not of a peaceful spirit.

At first my DH said you are going to go to your room when you get home. When we got home she was happy to go there. Like she could "get away" from us when it was typically our day of family time. The Holy Spirit then led me to have her do something else. Instead of giving her what she wanted by spending time in her room by herself I told her she was going to have to do some writing exercises. (She was being home schooled at the time so she assumed something from her school work, however this wasn't the case).

I had her sit at her work area with a paper, and pencil. I opened the bible up to Deuteronomy 27:16 and I had her copy the verse 10 times. This was a short verse, but for longer verses I only make them do it maybe 5 times or 3 times. I try to find the shorter verses though when I incorporate this in their punishment. After they are done they also have to explain to me why from a biblical aspect it was wrong.

Here are my reasons for choosing this as part of their discipline.

• It shows them from a biblical point what they are doing wrong. 
• It shows that I too follow through with Yahweh's word and The Scriptures. 
• It also shows that sometimes it isn't easy being obedient to the Scriptures and it's hard but we do it because it is commanded by Yahweh and his word. 

We have noticed a huge difference that this alone has had on our blessings from Yahweh. They do get upset if we ground them or make them do extra chores, but now I will gently remind my older two if we need to do some bible reconstruction and their response is no ma'am or no sir. They do what we ask, because it's always in their mind that mommy and daddy are doing what The Scriptures tell us to do. 

Teaching Our Daughters

Tonight I listened to the video posted below and I have to say one of my favorite sermons that I have watched or heard in a long time. Don't get me wrong I love learning the whole bible but to hit a topic like this is rare. It's not being taught in many congregations even the Messianic and Torah teachings.

I had been thinking about doing a post about our daughters and what I hope I can teach them. This one hour video pretty much sums it up. Voddie Bauchman speaks of how women's role is in the home and to her husband.

My favorite quote was "You are not a piece of meat to fulfill a man's sinful desire, but you are worth far more than rubies". We live in a world that promotes sexuality in a way that our 13 and 14 year old daughters should not be desiring. We are a blended family meaning my older two are not biologically from my husband, however that has never been the structure of our home. So I understand the struggles that it takes and what women go through when the man up and leaves, or isn't willing to take care of his kids on his own, because I have been there.

After watching the video it actually prompted me to teach my oldest daughter more about what her role is and what she needs to be looking for. She is only 11 years old, but being in public school for the past year and a half I am sure there is some views, and things that we need to reroute and redirect her to. It's crazy to think in the next 10 years she could be getting married and starting a family of her own. My prayer and hope is that she finds a man that embraces and lives out the Titus 2 scriptures. Not just for a short time and not just to marry her, but because he truly believes in the scriptures.

The Need For Greed

I probably shouldn't be writing this but it is something that has really been getting to me the past 2 months. For the past 2 years the only time an "old friend" wants to reconnect is for 4 reasons which are they started an organization, business, ministry or they want to correct my spiritual faith and beliefs. I love reconnecting with friends and have the opportunity to see pictures of their families. We are military and never in one place long enough to say our kids will grow up together. I understand we all have lives and are busy. I too am quite busy. I have 5 kids, military spouse, and home school them all. Plus I make all of our food at home from scratch and do natural health consults. So I get the whole I have a life thing so do I, but it really irks me the wrong way when I haven't even heard from someone unless they think they will gain something like money or my business.

In the past 6 months I have gotten several emails, and message from friends in past churches, and cities we have lived in. One actually asked how me and my husband were doing. At first I thought wow this is so nice Kasey and I haven't talked to them in so long. Then not even 5 minutes into the chat they start telling me about a new ministry and if I would like to bless his ministry...Whoa wait I thought you were genuinely concerned about us. Now you are asking for money from us. I had mentioned that I would let my husband know about the ministry. (He is the head not me). He said yeah and where are you guys at now. I said Missouri and this person began asking when he commissions as an officer. It immediately got me thinking has he not seen any of my posts for the past year and a half, or my pictures. My husband commissioned to be an officer over a year ago.

It saddened me. As I spoke to Kasey later that night and informed him about our chat. He was very displeased. How can someone that you have bent over backwards for do that to you? I am always thinking about being content with what we are given (Hebrews 13:5). Where did this whole selfish thing come into play. I am finding more and more that I am not liking selfish people. Maybe it's because I would give a widowed mom my last bit of food to feed her kids. Maybe it's because I would house a girl that is pregnant or in a domestic violence situation. When did this need for greed come about? Maybe it's because I wasn't raised this way. Maybe it's because we don't instill these things into our kids. We very rarely have cupboards stocked up with food, but I do always have a house full of joyful kids. Not just my own but the neighbors, my nieces and nephews and our friends.

I guess for now I won't understand since I want to be the simple country gal and live off of our own land. So today I say show the people you love them, hug your sons and daughters and instead of sending me or your friends messages about your new ministry, business, or organization bless someone by paying it forward. Buy a bag of groceries for a family.

Juanita

My Meaning of Marriage

As I look back at the past six and a half years of our lives together it makes me so grateful on what the things that we were able to grasp early on in our lives. We have always had our fights and disputes. It did take some time and we are still working on it. We haven't been together that long but we have understandings, and have made that choice to choose each other for life. (Genesis 2:18)
Although we made the choice we still had problems. It wasn't anything major but little things that built up. We had just moved and we under a lot of stress, we no longer had a church home, I just had our 5th child and my husband was never home with all the training he had to do and prep for. I was upset, angry and sad all at the same time. I felt I didn't want the marriage any more. I knew I was wrong in that sense but I found myself blaming my husband for not giving me enough attention (even though he was working 14-16 hour days. I knew I needed to stay in the scriptures and a friend recommended The Peasant Princess. This was the most in-depth set of sermon services that I have ever heard in my life. Not only did this change my life but it changed my marriage. This is when I had an ah ha moment. I watched the whole series and by the end of the series me and my husband both had a change of heart.
Here is what I got out of it.

• My marriage is not my own.
• I am here to serve my husband.
• It doesn't matter if he serves me it's about what I am called to do for him.

I know this doesn't seem like a lot but hear me out. I used to think marriage was both people working at it, making each other happy and it was 50/50. After the series I had a huge change of heart. I realized it doesn't matter what I want, it matters what my husband wants. If my husband wants to take a nap (he works 12-14 hours a day Monday through Saturday) so be it. If my husband wants to have friends over we will. Before the video it was no I want this to happen and we are doing this. This was NOT biblical in any way. I was telling the person that was supposed to be the head of the house to do it my way. I was quickly reminded of Proverbs 21:19. We tend to get convicted more when we least expect it. Now I would like to say this goes both ways.
My husband and I have an agreement about our marriage. My marriage to him is not mine, just like his marriage to me is not his. I started to track how I felt every time I got upset with my husband. It was from little things to big fights. Every time I was upset it wasn't him it was me. It was me wanting something. It was me needing something. It was me and I was immediately convicted about it. I thought maybe that it wasn't my husband but me. I am the one wanting things done a certain way because it's for me. I never once thought how I could make my husbands day better. I never thought how I could make him happy. This was a year ago almost to the day. Since then I have realized it's not my marriage it our marriage. He doesn't owe me anything. No where in scripture does it say just because I want something he has to do it for me. It says to love and honor each other.
A year later we have grown closer to each other in new ways. I still catch myself saying he did this to me, or he doesn't give me enough attention, but I guard my mouth and change my words and thoughts. I think what can I do to make this marriage better. I ask him is there something you want me to do for you today. I remember just like the disciples and the people who were called by God I am not here for me....I am here for him. How can I face God and tell him well he didn't show me love. I remember God showed me love, and I need to show God's love through me. I can do it to other people and family but my husband should be the one I cater to the most. My husband is the one that I should serve the most, and honor the most (besides God).

Love hearing your thoughts. 

God Put Everything Here For a Reason

As I was reading my bible and studying for my natural doctor degree I really was focused on the Genesis scripture 1:11, 1:12  and 1:29. These 3 scriptures talk about how God has given us everything we need and it is here for a reason. The bible speaks to us several times about not trusting our faith, and salvation to man (Psalm 146:3) but why is it that so many of us trust our doctors with our health to the point where it could kill us. In Hosea it says that my people are DESTROYED by the lack of knowledge. It doesn't say they recovered, they became ill, but destroyed. Taking pills, drugs, and eating poor diets destroy our lives. It puts us in a cycle that is hard to break and could ultimately kill us. Here are some stats that show how we are being DESTROYED due to trust in man and not in our heavenly father.

• 215,000 people under the age of 20 have diabetes. 
• Celiac Disease effects roughly 3 million people. 
• Crohns Disease effects 500,000 Americans. 
• The American Cancer Society states that an estimated 274,000 people are diagnosed with a digestive Cancer each year to include the gallbladder, stomach, esophagus, and colon. 
• GERD effects roughly 20% of the American population. 
• The antacid industry is a 50 billion dollars a year industry. 
• Processed food in the US alone is a 3.2 trillion dollar industry. 

These are just a few quick stats showing how broken our bodies are. We are allowing doctors kill us slowly. There is not one person that you meet that says that don't know someone that has Cancer, Heartburn, Acid Reflux, Arthritis, Sinus problems, digestive issues or an autoimmune disease. 

This was not God's intentions at all. In Genesis 1:29 he says And God said, Behold, I have given you every herb bearing seed, which [is] upon the face of all the earth, and every tree, in the which [is] the fruit of a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be for meat KJV. All throughout scripture we read of healing and prayer. The healing that Jesus performed on people were casting demons out of the bodies, and raising people from the dead. You don't hear of Jesus or his disciples healing people from sinuses, colds and flus. Instead they had wisdom to heal themselves with herbs, and good nutrition. So I have to ask where is your trust? Do you trust God with your life or man? If you trust man over God for you health you have just made for yourself an idol. God can easily take something away from you just as fast as he gave it to you. The first thing you do when you wake up with a cold, runny, nose, or pain in your back or head what is the first thing you do? If it isn't praying to God for guidance, and wisdom to ease your symptoms and get better than you have just put an idol over God yourself and your flesh. King David asked for wisdom and God gave it to him. This has been my prayer for the last 5 years God just give me wisdom to know what to do. Give me wisdom to speak your words and your ways. God give me wisdom and he has. He has given me wisdom in abundance so I can help others with their health. He has given me wisdom to the point that I have seen women overcome Cancer with diet change and exercise. I have been blessed to see the fruit of my seeds that I have sown. Not all of us get to see the fruit but God was gracious enough to bless me to see it. 

So in closing I am going to ask one last time do you trust God or Man. Remember man can't save you but God can. Jesus can save you from hell. Jesus can heal you. God can give you wisdom but only if you ask. James 4:3 states that you ask but do not receive because you ask with doubt. Pray with out ceasing and God will give you what you ask according to his will in heaven.